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Get Through the Hard Moments Together

A BPD Relationship Guide

55-page digital PDF · 10 situations

Practical guidance for both people, with what to say, what to do, and how to make a plan for next time.

Each situation includes both perspectives, examples for different levels of intensity, and a game plan.

1. When an argument gets out of hand:
   Navigate hurtful exchanges, pauses and returning to the conversation.
2. When someone is late or doesn’t show up:
   Work through the hurt of waiting, missed plans and repair.
3. When a message or call goes unanswered:
   Find ways to offer reassurance and plan for time apart.
4. When feedback feels painful:
   Make room for hurt feelings, accountability and misunderstandings.
5. When hurt is met with dismissal or misunderstanding:
   Explore how both people can feel heard and address what still hurts.
6. When a promise is broken or trust is hurt:
   Work toward meaningful repair and realistic commitments.
7. When someone regrets what they said or did while upset:
   Navigate apologies and accountability without rushing forgiveness.
8. When closeness suddenly turns into anger:
   Respond to a sudden shift while making room for reassurance and space.
9. When an unexpected change makes the day feel unmanageable:
   Address the disruption and find a manageable next step.
10. When you want to reconnect after a painful argument:
    Reach out and return to what still needs repair.